How BIGGER is better?

I have been thinking, and I noticed that from my experiences I often encounter myself living in a paradox. At the same time that I love big guys, and especially the ones with big rounded bellies, also I observe a deep concern for their health condition.

Now, it’s important to say that this feeling might change according to the circumstances. Because chasers might behave and feel differently depending on if the guy is someone he is just having fun with or if he is really his boyfriend and they share a life together.

When it’s just fun, the chaser might think “the bigger, the better”. He might go for the biggest hardest rounded belly he finds. Because that is very attractive, of course! I get that! But let’s say you “can’t” say goodbye after you’ve cum because you are in a relationship with him?

And in that case, for chasers:

How big do you want him to be?
How often do you do outdoor activities together?
Do you do things out of the bear scene together?
Do you travel together?
Do you ever encourage him to have a healthier awareness?
Or do you just sit back, watch, and never seem to care if he is a strong candidate for a sudden heart failure, stroke or a peripheral artery condition, often on the legs?
Or just never really thought about these things?

Now you bears:

Did you ever have a chaser showing you these kinds of concerns?
Would you ever consider listening to your partner’s concerns?
Out of love, mainly for yourself and for him, would you do anything different to try and maintain a healthier lifestyle?

For both bears and chasers:

Eventually, what really keeps you together?
Is it just about the physical appearance or is it something greater that unites the two of you? Or both?

Personally, I have let all my boyfriends free to make their own decisions about how they should live their lives. I have expressed an enormous amount of love and acceptance to who they are. However, I am a positive progressor and I believe we can always do better and be better today, of what we were yesterday. So I have always encouraged and supported my boyfriends to be their best and feel at their best. Of course, taking limitations into account.

That’s probably one of the many ways in how I express my love for them.



4 thoughts on “How BIGGER is better?

  1. I’m 6’2″ and I weight 350lbs. As of my last physical I am considered healthy – save for a vitamin D deficiency. Until recently I bought into the idea that big bears couldn’t do all the things that other guys can do. The truth is, by and large, they can. Their bodies will adapt to any level of activity they wish to engage in. It just takes more time. Our bodies will adapt to activity. What it hard to adapt to is the chasers in our lives who tell us to keep our seats, they’ll get the water from the fridge, or go to the grocery store. I wonder how much of that “don’t move” desire is based, at least at some level on making sure that size doesn’t change?
    If size is it. If that’s the only thing keeping us together, then the chaser has a fetish and it is not a relationship.
    Finally, I’d encourage you to disassociate size with health.

    • Hi Guy, thank you for taking the time to read and answer it. I totally agree with you. I always believe that a big guy can and should do things, even if it takes more time. Still it is important to do it, for many reasons also.

      When it comes to the chaser attitude, I can only speak for myself. And I would never encourage him to keep his seat. Instead, I would rather have him right at my side doing things with me. I am a complete supporter.

      I don’t associate size with health, but more the bad eating habits and lack of activities etc. I know some big guys will be healthier than the chaser himself. I just wanted to raise the topic and wondered if I am the only one regarding health as a main concern prior to anything else.

      Thanks :)

  2. This is an interesting concept. Honestly I’ve never had a Chaser pursue a relationship, and the relationships I’ve had I can say were not with someone who identifies as a Chaser.
    All of the Chasers I’ve encountered weren’t in it for the relationship.
    However, I have had a Chaser tell me if I lost more weight he wouldn’t be interested in me as I would be too small.

    • Hi Fred. Thanks for reading and taking the time to put your thoughts down. I believe everything happens for a reason. And maybe the day will come and one chaser might pursue a more serious relationship with you if it is meant to be.

      When it comes to losing interest after a loss of weight I understand and I think it can go both ways, but I will probably create just one post about it.

      Again, thanks.


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